{"id":2518,"date":"2020-05-25T16:40:10","date_gmt":"2020-05-25T23:40:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.loghouseplants.com\/blogs\/greengardening\/?p=2518"},"modified":"2020-05-25T16:40:10","modified_gmt":"2020-05-25T23:40:10","slug":"decoration-day","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.loghouseplants.com\/blogs\/greengardening\/2020\/05\/decoration-day\/","title":{"rendered":"Decoration Day"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>There is a crack in everything, that’s how the light gets in-and out<\/p>\n

Stormy Weather And Silver Linings<\/strong><\/p>\n

This Memorial Day is the most painful I\u2019ve ever experienced. In the past, I thought of it as many people seem to; a national holiday weekend, the beginning of summer, time for relaxing and fun, for picnics and parties. It wasn\u2019t always so light-hearted; in the aftermath of the American Civil War, the last Monday in May was declared Decoration Day, a day set aside for families to visit cemeteries and decorate the graves of their beloved lost. It was a solemn time of remembrance and grief for a country deeply, brutally divided, both politically and socioeconomically. Over time, the day became more of a celebration of ancestors, with families gathering at cemeteries with picnics, weeding and tidying up grave plots, planting bulbs and shrubs. Family graves were decorated with flowers, while those of military men and women were honored with American flags, reminders that their lives had been given for our country. This year, it\u2019s painfully clear that our country is as divided as it has ever been, and the national response to the pandemic is driving us further apart instead of pulling us together.<\/p>\n

We\u2019ve become such a mobile society that decorating ancestral graves isn\u2019t so easy anymore. We may live hundreds or thousands of miles from family graves, and many families are more loosely connected than in the past. Though honoring ancestors remains a significant tradition in many cultures around the world, many American have lost the rootedness that made decorating family graves feel natural and comforting. Instead, we watch a kleptocrat mouth empty platitudes about honoring our military, then head back to the gold course while the dreadful virus rips through our VA hospitals and care facilities (13,302 affected so far) and affects thousands (8,950) of actively serving members of the military. People, not personnel.<\/p>\n

Grieving Honors The Lost<\/strong><\/p>\n

Today, we can also honor nearly 100,000 Americans who have died in the past few months. Killed by the world-changing pandemic, these people\u2019s lives are a heavy price to pay for our national government\u2019s prideful negligence. That\u2019s a lot of suffering, innocent lives cut short in horrible, painful, terrifying ways and so far, the current regime offers more threats, excuses, and challenges than condolences. I\u2019m sick at heart for nearly 250,000 other people around the world who have died in the pandemic. I\u2019m grieving for their families and friends and coworkers too, for everyone affected by this huge disaster. But wait, there\u2019s more! There is increasing evidence that pandemics are encouraged by ecological destruction. When humans destroy habitat, we come into more contact with wild animals, opening the door for zoonatic disease transmission (diseases of animal origin that can jump to people). And shall we add in wet markets and meat processing?<\/p>\n

I\u2019m grieving the lost habitat that opens those doors all around the world, making pandemics more likely. I\u2019m grieving the millions of lost plants and animals, too. I\u2019m also grieving the losses of connection and community that give structure to human lives. The more we value privacy and individual rights, the less interest we have in promoting connection or participating in community. Just as habitat destruction can lead to pandemics, the erosion of community cultures opens gateways to addictions and violence, both based in deep fear. Many studies show that addictions and social terrorism are rooted in the lack of connection and community that\u2019s made worse by trauma and major losses. When we are in dire need of connection, we are most likely to end up in a hospital or mental facility, usually with a constantly changing cast of caregivers.<\/p>\n

Silver Linings, Golden Light
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Humans need to be in community, yet right now, we can\u2019t safely get together in person. We are having to learn to reach out in different ways, making more phone calls, texting and sending pictures, even writing notes and cards and letters (almost a lost art). We are discovering how to navigate the protocols of online meetings in various formats, learning the etiquette of speaking in turn, observing each other more closely, watching to see who\u2019s waiting to speak, who\u2019s drifting off, who\u2019s feeling bereft, who\u2019s checking their phone. We are learning how to pay attention in new ways, how to listen to what is and isn\u2019t being said.<\/p>\n

One silver lining to our social isolation is that when we do connect, the conversation often feels deeper and richer than usual. I\u2019m finding myself listening better these days, inviting insights, feelings, and ideas that emerge more freely in slow, unhurried conversations than in quick check-in chats. I\u2019ve been phone-visiting lately with my mom\u2019s sister, hearing funny, sad, and often enlightening family stories that my mother never shared, the kind that explain a LOT. I\u2019m having deeply rewarding conversations with my fellow Trans-parents, the kind where we hesitate and fumble for words, laugh and cry and laugh again, feeling nourished by recognition and strengthened by understanding. I\u2019m finding peace and comfort in remembering that we are all broken, that humans have always been broken, and that sharing brokenness can bring us closer together. I can hear Leonard Cohen right now, singing my favorite song, Anthem; \u201cThere is a crack in everything, that\u2019s how the light gets in.\u201d So let there be light.<\/p>\n

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